Marriage and couple counselling and psychotherapy online via Zoom, Skype and the phone for all English speaking clients in the UK and for British working abroad including Expats.
Couple counselling offers a place where there is no blame, no judgement, where no-one is the ‘bad guy’. Couple counselling is where the impact of two people on one relationship is explored.
Couples counselling leads to a more authentically connected contented relationship.
1. To develop, change or grow a relationship.
2. To make a decision about a relationship.
3. To separate.
It may be that each person in your relationship, whether this is a partnership, friendship or a family connection, is in different places regarding wants and desires and that is absolutely ok as counselling will help talk through individual needs.
In reality, what couple therapy demonstrates is a real relationship, a relationship which you can model in your own relationship and other relationships around you.
So first out, change IS is uncomfortable and that is why they say that, on average, couples take 7 years too long to come to therapy (yes, 7 years!). So if you are here sooner, you are already doing a great job.
Letting a third person into your relationship takes courage yet what is important to remember is that it is with a view to change and to help you live more comfortably and contentedly within your relationship. For all intense and purposes you have tried your best yet, sometimes, you can be at your wits end as to what is happening and that is why you find yourself here. Isn't it true that you have learnt Maths, you have learnt English, yet where have you learnt how to be in relationship? Is it any wonder there can be struggle and the very reason you are here means you want different.
Couple counselling is about creating a new relationship where you are informed by the past yet you do not live in it. The fact you are here is not one person's fault, is is about what is being co-created.
In your sessions we will explore the dance you are doing, we will look at the steps you are both making and we will work together to find new ways of your dance being a bit smoother.
I will encourage you to engage as individuals and as a couple drawing on your own internal resources (of which you both have many) which will help you discover more options and choices (ones that may currently be hidden from you).
All of these are great questions and counselling brings a sense of normality by providing a safe space where we can work on them together. It is worth remembering you are two different people, with different needs and, at times, you may feel uncertain in your relationship and that is ok. When two individuals come together so do two worlds of difference and it is about how you navigate difference together.
So question time: –
Does this sound like the kind of relationship you want?
If yes click here to contact me letting me know which available appointment time you wish to take so we can start working together on your wants, needs and desires.
If no, read on as you are here as you are in discomfort so you may need a little more encouragement.
N – is it Necessary?
H – is it Honest?
S – is it Self-seeking?
Contact from website
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Text / WhatsApp / Telephone Contact
Contact 07941 305511 to make an appointment.
Please leave a message and I will get back to you as soon as I am able.
Note that if your telephone number is unfamiliar to me, and you do not leave a message, I will not call you back as I am unaware of your individual situation.
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Not ready yet?
That is absolutely ok yet there is a saying 'nothing changes if nothing changes' so only by being brave and courageous will you experience change. I am happy to be alongside you why you transition.
Please know I work in Private Practice Monday - Thursday and I will get back to you within these times.