Kate Heavey - BACP Accredited Counsellor and Psychotherapist. Specialisms: relationships, bereavement, loss, alcohol and binge eating disorder.
Hello and welcome to my website. My name is Kate and I am a passionate BACP accredited counsellor, psychotherapist and relationship practitioner based in Surrey (UK).
What has you visiting my website is a level of discomfort in your life today. This may be linked to a symptom you are experiencing; to a past, current or future event or due to relationships with yourself or with others.
The one thing that counselling brings is hope that things can be different and I absolutely guarantee they can be with a few changes.
As an English speaking therapist I provide therapy for you, your relationships and the symptoms/issues that come from being in relationship. I work with individuals, couples and 'twos', i.e. siblings, friends, mothers / daughters, fathers / sons, steps, etc.
As an individual you may be seeking therapy to...... deal with addiction (alcohol and/or eating disorders); due to a bereavement or loss you want to process; to talk about communication issues in your personal or work life; discuss low self-esteem, confidence or how you feel about yourself (self-worth); a sense of feeling ungrounded/unsafe in the world or it could be a life trauma you experienced is keeping you stuck and you now feel ready to talk about it. Click here to find out more.
What brings you to therapy as a couple can be ....... strained communication; conflicting values; circular patterns; betrayal / trust issues; feeling taken for granted; bereavement or loss (i.e. parent dies, miscarriage, IVF treatment, etc.); relationship insecurity / anxiety; navigating life changes such as having a baby, moving area/country, diagnosis/illness, redundancy, retirement, etc.; increased addiction use (i.e. alcohol, use of food); impact of work causing extra relationship stress or that you are considering splitting and want to discuss your options. Click here to find out more.
As some of these reasons demonstrate your reason for counselling is absolutely unique to you and, together, we can work through what is causing you upset and distress.
Whether here as an individual, a couple or part of a 'two' in any relationship (work, home, family, neighbours, etc.) there are two perspectives; two sets of values / beliefs; two different life stories; two sets of defenses and two learnt ways of being in the world. Invariably this then creates difference in relationship which, if harboured or not spoken about, can turn into unpleasant feelings such as anger, upset, disappointment, guilt, general fedupness, etc. within the relationship which then impacts not only your relationship yet how you are in other areas of your life too.
Please know it is perfectly normal to have difference yet it is about how you deal with it and this will be dependent on the tools you have been given / picked up along the way.
Relationship counselling offers: unpicking the past (as necessary), looking at the current relationship, learning new tools, learning to vocalise feelings in an adult way and being able to be real knowing your relationship can hold you (and the other!).
Most clients come into therapy in the mourning stage of loss. Together we work on your feelings and thoughts at a pace which is comfortable for you.
There can be an assumption that grief goes over time and whilst that, to a certain extent, is true what is not true is that grief completely disappears as it is testiment to the relationship which was experienced. What happens in the mourning and grieving process is that you integrate grief into your daily life as this picture demonstrates:-
You can find more about how I counsel with loss and bereavement by clicking here.
Alcohol and food addiction is a big problem worldwide. Why? We are a more detached society than ever before. There is more trauma, isolation (in 2018 the Government even appointed a Minister of isolation) and more people are turning to substances for comfort to feel voids to help manage the way they feel or simply to help with day to day living.
You can find more about how I counsel with alcohol and food addiction by clicking here.
The main aim of therapy is for you to come to your sessions (whether as an individual, couple or two) to unlearn some habits and ill-effective ways of being, to re-learn some new ways and then to be at more ease within yourself (and relationship). I am a firm believer that you have all you need within you.
I see my role as helping you to process, and connect with, your own life story; to provide guidance so you can trust in yourself more; for us to look at new ways of working; for you to offload some of your old baggage and in its place create more helpful habits.
What I aim to do is represented in the Chinese symbol to listen: -
I believe that counselling and psychotherapy transforms lives (it did mine!) and that is my hope for you too.
I am so invested that I even offer the initial assessment complimentary for individuals so you can meet me and I can run through some of your background and what it is that brings you to counselling (£30 for couples for 50 minutes due to pre-assessment work). This also gives you an opportunity to ask any questions you may have.
Without action you will not experience any change so a question; do you want to be in the same place this time next month? next year? or even 10 years from now? You will only experience different if you do different.
To make it easy for you I have some pre-bookable appointments. Click here to book noting that all times are current UK time.
Note: if you are requiring a psychotherapist, expat relationship counsellor or need marriage counselling online and do not find a convenient time, then click here to contact me letting me know what your requirements are.
I am an based on the Surrey / West Sussex borders in the UK so I am on British time.
My current online work takes me around the world from my local village, to further afield in the UK to Europe extending to the world.
As an English speaking therapist I am often chosen as an expat relationship counsellor having spent a year abroad and having some awareness of the isolating issues of being in a community which is not that of your home. I bring comfort of 'home when away'.
Often when clients want marriage counselling online I am chosen for convenience around family life as I can come into your home.
Cautionary note: Even though I am registered and qualified in England any counselling work we do is subject to Laws in the country in which you reside at the time of therapy.
Contact from website
Click here to contact me and please include what appointment time you are looking for.
Email [email protected]
Text / WhatsApp / Telephone Contact
Contact 07941 305511 to make an appointment.
Please leave a message and I will get back to you as soon as I am able.
Note that if your telephone number is unfamiliar to me, and you do not leave a message, I will not call you back as I am unaware of your individual situation.
I confirm that both my email account and voicemail are password protected and only accessible by me.
Not ready yet?
That is absolutely ok yet there is a saying 'nothing changes if nothing changes' so only by being brave and courageous will you experience change. I am happy to be alongside you why you transition.
I work in Private Practice Monday - Thursday and I will get back to you within these times.
A quote for reflection....
‘Together we can achieve so much... you've just got to take the first step across the bridge'
Kate, Relationship Counselling Online